I did like I always do and read the blurb about the author first.
If you read the brief bio of Dostoevsky below, you'll instantly feel better about the day you've had.
I thought Dostoevsky's bio was so remarkable that when Mary Grace came down for breakfast, I told her about him and read this page to her. When I read the highlighted part above, I, of course, seized such a teachable moment, and talked about the good a wife can bring to her husband and the good a wife can be to her husband. Look at what good Anna Snitkina had done - had been - for Dostoevsky!
It also triggered a memory about a radio program I heard years ago that (I think) featured Leslie Ludy. She introduced me to a concept from Proverbs 31 (the virtuous woman passage) that I had never thought of before, one that I'd wish I'd been introduced to and consequently, more mindful of, when I was single.
It's a beautiful "knowing" - and I want to make sure my daughters are aware of it.
The enlightening thought is found in Proverbs 31:12, which I've highlighted below.
I've read those words many times, and have taken them more to heart since I became a wife back in 1987. I want to become an excellent wife, a Proverbs 31 woman. All the days of my life, I want to do good to my Lou. I haven't arrived, but hopefully, I am in progress.
|I take him for cupcakes sometimes...that's doing good for sure|
I put the words "since I became a wife" in italics above because that's as long as I've been trying to do good to my husband, and I want to do good to him all the days that I have left of my life. That's a good thing and it certainly speaks to where I am and where my oldest daughter, Hannah, is.
|October 26, 2013|
She's been a wife to her Alex for almost 2 years now, and I've been privileged and blessed to see her seeking to do him good all the days of her life.
On first glance it would seem that verse 12 only speaks to me and Hannah and all other married women out there. But Leslie Ludy brought up the fact that all the days of your life means all the days of your life. And many of the days of a woman's life are before marriage.
A woman can do good to her husband before she is married.
I must clarify here that I don't want my daughters (or any other young woman who is single) to have their sights fixed (fixated?) on marrying and/or becoming something marry-able. The only place I pray my daughters' eyes are fixed is on our Savior, the author and perfector of our faith - Jesus Christ. When their eyes are focused on him, they are on the path where they can see clearly, think clearly, feel clearly, and act wisely. That is how they become virtuous women.
But it's also safe to say that getting married is something my 3 other daughters desire at some point in their future. And if God grants them that good gift, they can know that by seeking to be a Proverbs 31 woman now - today - they are also doing good to their future husband!
There is something about that that I think is so beautiful.
It's like this amazing fringe benefit that you hadn't ever thought of before. Dear daughters, you can be doing good today to the man you are going to love so much that sometimes, your heart aches. You are in the middle of all the days of your life. What you do today matters. Continue becoming a Proverbs 31 woman.
And you will continue doing good.
My daughters have certainly been more than good in my life. I have been blessed to know them all the days of their life. They are far more precious than jewels.