Tuesday, October 20, 2015

My Tribe's Vibe: A Lie

There were days when I believed a lie. 

A few examples of days when that happened were:

      - when I yelled at one or more of the kids

     -  when I felt like a complete failure at correcting them. I didn't know what to say, and what I did say came out all wrong and they didn't seem sorry and I fumbled all over the place with my words.

     - when I said something that, the minute I said it, and saw the look on their face, I knew I had crushed them. 

     - when I didn't follow through on something I said I would do.

     - when I was cranky and took it out on them.

Basically, it was any day that I saw what an imperfect parent I am. 
So imperfect. 
So inadequate.

On those days I didn't just believe I was imperfect like all humans are. I believed the lie that I was completely inept at parenting and at life. I remember one particularly hard day crying, "I'm ruining our children!" to my husband.

But the truth is:

-God made me the mom of these kids. On purpose. For their good and for mine. They need me and I need them. 
-God equips us for what He calls us to do.
-God gives wisdom when we ask for it (James 1)
-I haven't ruined them. I'm not ruining them. I love them and love covers a multitude of sins. (I Peter 4:8)
-I must preach to myself more than I listen to myself.
-There are no perfect parents. Ask God to forgive me when I do sin against them. Then, forgive myself and go on.

Go on and send that lie packing back to the pit it came from. 


  1. "I must preach to myself more than I listen to myself"....love it! Enjoyed this Shelley!

  2. So, your post actually inspired my post for tomorrow...I linked to it if that's ok! :)

    1. HI Lauren! Totally great to link! Thank you for your kind words!